When a man or woman makes love, the reason that they only experience an orgasm in the pelvis area is because this is the area that they intensely focus on. The mind is a very powerful tool. Where you focus and put your intention is where the energy goes. By using a combination of your intention along with the breath, anyone can circulate sexual energy throughout the entire body. The breath is the vehicle that moves energy throughout the body.
Just take a moment, sitting in your chair. Relax the body and mind, taking a few deep breaths. When you are ready, squeeze the perineum, doing a Kegel exercise. As you squeeze, take a deep breath in, feeling the energy flowing up through your abdomen, into your arms and fingers, through your heart and neck, all the way up to the crown of your head. Then exhale out your mouth. As you exhale, feel and visualize the energy sinking down, through your body, into your legs, as you become heavier and more grounded. Do you feel slight tingling throughout your body? This is the flow of energy. Squeezing the perineal muscles, these Kegel exercises are the same muscle contractions that occur during orgasm. This point in the perineum, called the Hui Yin point is very well known in Taoist Energy Healing and Eastern medicine because it is the meeting point of four different pathways of energy flowing throughout the body, connecting to the sacrum, navel, crown of the head, and through the legs (See figure). So when we squeeze, we are opening these channels, releasing this energy throughout our body. It is very possible, using Kegel exercises, along with breathing, and mindful intention to have a full body orgasm without any genital stimulation whatsoever.
The following suggestions are a very good guide to experiencing full body orgasms:
Take it slowly. Build the sexual energy a little at a time. There is no hurry. Every touch is a complete sexual act. Keep touching and teasing, making that store of sexual energy stronger and stronger. It is like filling water behind a dam where orgasm is the explosion breaking the dam. The amount of sexual energy within you determines both the strength of the orgasm, as well as how far up your body the orgasm will go.
Practice doing Kegel exercises daily. At least forty times a day, or four sets of ten. There are also devices available that help to strengthen the PC muscles. It is recommended to use one of these because muscle can only get so strong contracting without resistance. Using such a device can make the PC muscles even stronger. This not only strengthens our pelvic muscles for a better climax, but it also increases the amount of sexual energy you have within you. In Eastern medicine, this point is called the “Gate of Life and Death” because it is believed that the energy that keeps the organs and body strong is retained by having strong PC muscles. Likewise, this energy drains away through this point if there are weak PC muscles. So make sure to do them daily for health as well as to build a nice healthy libido. If you never reach full body orgasm, this alone sets the stage for great sex!
Become familiar with chakras and the energy system. Chakras, literally meaning “spinning wheels” and centers or vortexes of energy within the body.
There are seven chakras: the root, navel, solar plexus, heart, throat, third eye, and crown. Our energy travels up our bodies thru these chakras. Those very attuned to the body’s energy can actually see the spinning on energy in each chakra as it expands outwards. So take a few minutes each day to focus on each chakra. All seven chakras have a specific color, as well as negative and positive emotion associated with them. Learn these and practice breathing through the chakras, placing your hands on each one as you take deep breaths focusing your intention on each. Allow them to expand, becoming stronger and stronger.
Focus on the places that your partner, or you yourself, stimulate at the moment (It is good to practice on yourself as well). Remember that each touch is a complete sexual act. For example, if you feel a touch on your neck, tune in to the sensations that you feel at that exact spot. Do not allow yourself to think of anything but. Be the actual touch. Tantra is to make every moment count. Allowing your thoughts to stray on the way you look, the work you have to do, or what someone else is doing in the moment, is wasting a good time, your time! Let go of the thoughts, and live in each touch!
Finally, during orgasm, allow your mind to bring the energy up your body by simply directing it. While you feel your orgasm, feel yourself pull it up thru your stomach, chest, neck, landing finally in the crown of your head. Simply place your attention to where you want the energy to be, and with time, you will find the energy traveling. It may take a little practice, but after a while the orgasm will travel all the way to the top! Once this happens, the energy can continue to recycle throughout the body, having one orgasm after another, not knowing exactly where one ends and one begins.
Based in beautiful North Vancouver, BC, Olivia Jade is available for Intimacy Coaching and Instruction in the Art of Tantra sessions for singles and couples, and private Sacred Tantric Healing sessions for individuals. I travel throughout the West Coast to give educational presentations and experiential workshops.